Power & Control Wheel

 

Developed by the Domestic Abouse Intervention Programs in Duluth, MN the Power and Control Wheel is designed to "Help identify common tactics used and spot abuse as it happens" and to "Help victims and offenders get the help they need before it is too late."


 

 

USING INTIMIDATION

  • Making her afraid by using looks, actions, gestures

  • Smashing things

  • Destroying her property

  • Abusing pets

  • Displaying weapons

 

USING EMOTIONAL ABUSE

  • Putting her down

  • Making her feel bad about herself

  • Calling her names

  • Making her think she's crazy

  • Playing mind games

  • Humiliating her

  • Making her feel guilty

 

USING ISOLATION

  • Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, where she goes

  • Limiting her outside involvement

  • Using jealousy to justify actions

 

MINIMIZING, DENYING AND BLAMING

  • Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously

  • Saying the abuse didn't happen

  • Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior

  • Saying she caused it

 

USING CHILDREN

  • Making her feel guilty about the children

  • Using the children to relay messages

  • Using visitation to harass her

  • Threatening to take the children away

 

USING MALE PRIVILEGE

  • Treating her like a servant

  • Making all the big decisions

  • Acting like the "master of the castle"

  • Being the one to define men's and women's roles

 

USING ECONOMIC ABUSE

  • Preventing her from getting or keeping a job

  • Making her ask for money

  • Giving her an allowance

  • Taking her money

  • Not letting her know about or have access to family income

 

USING COERCION AND THREATS

  • Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her

  • Threatening to leave her, to commit suicide, to report her to welfare

  • Making her drop charges

  • Making her do illegal things